Since the beginning of time, we were not created to be alone, so single
ladies, enough of the the happily single jingle. Trust me, I have coined that
phrase and professed to being happily single a few times. The truth is, by
saying that out loud, I was simply accepting my current situation and
being comfortable with it and not stressing out on the fact that I didn’t
have anyone to have dinner with, or go to the movies with. I didn’t want to
be in this status for very long, so I took a few steps to prepare myself for
Mr. Right Now. Yes, I said Mr. Right Now. News flash! There is no Mr.
Right.
To prepare myself for dating, the first thing I did was date myself. Now I
know that may sound crazy, but how many of you actually take yourself
out to eat alone in a restaurant? Most people are afraid to be alone. Well, a
couple of times a week, I take myself out to breakfast, lunch or dinner. I sit
at the counter where I receive one-on-one attention from a waitress. Or in
the evenings, I sit at the bar for dinner and talk to the bartender.
Positioning myself at the counter or a bar means I’m never alone and can
potentially meet someone. People are eager to strike up a conversation
when they see you dining alone. I call this situation the power of
networking. Telephone numbers may be exchanged, and possibly a
business deal could happen.
The bottom line is, you have to learn how to be alone with yourself, love
yourself, respect yourself and treat yourself good in order for someone to
step into your life and love you, respect you and be good to you. Be the
example for yourself in how you deserve to be treated. Self-love can be
challenging. We all have done and said things that we are not proud of,
and forgiving ourselves is one of the hardest things to do. We are our own
worst critic, and beating ourselves up and finding flaws with ourselves is
easier to do than to forgive and love ourselves.
The first step to loving yourself so that you can attract someone to love
you is to accept who you are and what you look like. If you’re not happy
with your personality flaws and how you look, begin to make changes that
are comfortable for you and not overwhelming. Learn to be good to
yourself. Remember, you deserve it. When you fall in love with yourself,
people will notice. They may even wonder if you have found that perfect
mate. When you love yourself, you walk different, talk different and may
even look different. Whatever loving yourself looks like, know that you will
release the perfume of love into the atmosphere and someone is destined
to be drawn to your new fragrance. Wear that perfume of love well and
watch what happens.